Self Esteem is tied to every single decision you make...Good and Bad.
Self Esteem is different from self Confidence here's how;
Self-esteem refers to whether you appreciate and value yourself. Your self-esteem develops and changes as a result of your life experiences and interactions with other people. Self-confidence is your belief in yourself and your abilities.
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For instance if your teeth are discolored you may not want to smile. If your over weight you may not want your photo taken. If you have a visible anomaly rash, pimple, scar you probably won't volunteer to speak to a crowd. Decisions, deciding not to fix something is a decision.
As Women we tend to over look things we need to take care of. Seems as we get older money is a factor and taking care of everyone else causes us to put our own needs off. People grappling with low self-esteem often find themselves struggling with uncertainty regarding their abilities and may harbor doubts about their decision-making skills. This uncertainty can dampen their motivation to explore new opportunities, as they lack confidence in their capacity to achieve their aspirations. Moreover, navigating relationships and articulating personal needs can pose challenges for those with low self-esteem. This struggle is often compounded by feelings of inadequacy and a sense of unworthiness, leading to diminished self-confidence and a perception of being unlovable.
On the other hand people with overly high self-esteem may overestimate their skills and may feel entitled to succeed, even without the abilities to back up their belief in themselves. They may struggle with relationship issues and block themselves from self-improvement because they are so fixated on seeing themselves as perfect. I know you know someone like this...
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Socioeconomic status von Soest T, Wagner J, Hansen T, Gerstorf D. Self-esteem across the second half of life: The role of socioeconomic status, physical health, social relationships, and personality factors. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 2018;114(6):945-958. doi:10.1037/pspp0000123
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How do we overcome and find our Self Esteem? First step take care of things you have been putting off, Dentist, Dermatologist, Doctor or Therapist. If you have not been to a dentist in more than a year you probably have bad breath a good cleaning will whiten teeth and clear up the breath problem. Just a point: Not getting your teeth cleaned regularly can cause other health issues that you think are not related. ( Let me know if you would like a blog about that).
Weight issues are a little more time consuming but what has worked for my husband and myself is raw veggies, protein, and no more than 20 grams of carbohydrates per DAY!! Basically whole foods, if it grows it is whole food. The more non starchy vegetables you can eat the better. Walk if you don't want to go outside walk in place in your the privacy of your own home. Fruits are good too my
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family sticks to berries, apples, oranges, mandarins and banana's. Note too many apples, oranges, mandarins and banana's have a lot of carbs and natural sugars. Also no additional salt on anything. Not in seasonings, not in sauces, no additional salt. Let us know if you want to know more about weight from our journey. We have been doing this for 4 weeks and lost a combines 74 pounds.
Once you fix the dental and health issues you will be ready to and have the confidence to ask for help with fun things like wardrobe and make-up application.
This paragraph is from: PRINCIPLES OF SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY – 1ST INTERNATIONAL H5P EDITION
People with high self-esteem get better grades, are less depressed, feel less stress, and may even
live longer than those who view themselves more negatively. The researchers also found that high
self-esteem is correlated with greater initiative and activity; people with high self-esteem just do more things. They are also more more likely to defend victims against bullies compared with people with low self-esteem, and they are more likely to initiate relationships and to speak up in
groups. High self-esteem people also work harder in response to initial failure and are more willing to switch to a new line of endeavor if the present one seems unpromising. Thus, having high self-esteem seems to be a valuable resource—people with high self-esteem are happier, more active, and in many ways better able to deal with their environment.
Like tackling any task that may be overwhelming, you have to tackle it one step ITS MODEL - NICOLE
at a time and day by day. But you have to start to get better. Each day should put you one step closer to building a better self esteem. For me I ignored health issue and wound up in the emergency room when a nutritionist hurt my feelings by telling me I was obese and if I didn't get some of this weight off I was looking at heart issues, diabetes and more. And then what hit me upside my head was 3 weeks after my 12 days in the hospital and 2 surgeries my husband had a heart attack. Don't wait. Get started today. I did not even realize how closely tied to my confidence my health was, until I was forced to face it. This is what Better Days with Teri is all about, changing to get better, to get healthier, to get happier, to feel success. Become a member today.
Make decisions that help your self esteem, your health and your happiness. You can't care for others properly if you do not take of YOU!!
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